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  1. I dont know if this will help, but I hope it will. Since we started our journey, the same thing happened to me and ours was more about the financial issues of ivf. Almost 90% of the blogs I read, at some point or another those couples have gone through almost the same concerns and issues. I think that it is the fear of unknown and maybe disappointment. I hope you guys will sit down and come to a compromise. Happy early birthday!

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    1. Thank you so much Toni. Your comment does help me try to put it in perspective. I've done what I always tell my hubby off for: taken it to the worst case scenario (us breaking up). Waking up this morning, still feeling a bit under the weather, however I am looking on the whole conversation yesterday in a more positive light. We need to talk about this, and that's exactly what we are doing. I just wish I could stop my tears from involuntarily falling down my cheeks when I hear something I don't want to hear about family plans. Next week, after my birthday we can get into it a little more.
      How do you know that you're BOTH ready?

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  2. Oh my. This hit so close to home. After a couple years of trying, i was ready to move on to treatments. Hubby said no. He wasnt ready. A part of me died that day, and it took a very long time for me to forgive what felt like a huge betrayal. We took a long break from ttc. I wasnt sure we would last. It was hell. We also didnt talk about it. Young and stupid.
    Eventually, we grew back together. He still wasnt entirely on board with treatment but when i educated him on what i was willing to go through versus his role, he sorta wised up and realized that this dream was not going to go away for me, and that if he wanted to keep me, he would have to be supportive.
    I dont know that he ever said "I'm totally ready for this." Even while I was pregnant, he didnt seem to comprehend it. But now, now hes a great dad and i know he cant imagine like without our boy.
    My point is this...he may never fully get what youre feeling. But keep being honest and letting him know that this is nonnegotiable for you. There will be a baby.
    Because I do believe there will be.

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    1. Hey Allison, I only just saw this comment now. Wow - it does sound like a very similar story!! You give me so much hope by reading about your experiences, and I have to keep believing that we will get through this and have a little baby in the near future.
      It sounds simplistic, but I realised today that if we did get pregnant this year, then Hubby will still have another 9 months of getting used to the idea. And that would be about 2 years since I first brought up the topic seriously. So with that simplistic notion - there is still HOPE!

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