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  1. I completely agree with you. I think you have the right to question his love to you as you do, because "trying" means the world to us infertiles. I would be giving a lot of thinking too if my partner wouldn't take the path of trying because it now means the world to me. I am so sorry you are dealing with these differences in top of IF, which by itself sucks. Keep strong and keep asking and pushing for your dream of becoming a mother. We all deserve that :)

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  2. I've always referred to it as trying. With the medication, doctors visits, blood draws that I've had, I really do consider it trying different things to get the result one wants. In our case, a baby. I'm not so sure I'm sold on your husband. I know he's' your husband, but I think he should be more sensitive of you because you're the one that would have to do all of the work if you did IVF.

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  3. I know I'm only getting your side of things, but here's what I'm getting from what you've been saying. Your husband is absolutely terrified of becoming a father. In his mind, if you try, you might succeed in becoming pregnant, in which case there is no going back, and he will indeed become a father. I don't know why this is so terrifying to him, but it is, so he wants to avoid it altogether. I wish I had more advice or helpful words for you, but this is what really came across to me today and over the past few posts.

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  4. I have to say that I truly agree with Meggola on her thoughts. I dont have any answers expect that I think counseling would be a great idea for you guys. I dont know if you have already approached that, if so sorry I didnt see anything on it. I am still hoping that you two can come to some sort of a compromise.

    Thinking of you.

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  5. I agree with the Meggola above, we are seeing all this from your perspective. But lets try to see it from his side...
    Just like you feel that your husband is not supporting your decision to have a baby, does he feel that you are not suporting his decision to live a child-free life?

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