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  1. I've been reading your blog for a little while now, and just wanted to drop in and say "hi, you're not alone on this one!"

    Before our IF diagnosis, my hubby and I were heavily planning our future - moving o'seas and opening our own business...I just can't seem to focus on anything but IVF these days! I really am trying to be active in other parts of my life, but like you, I can clearly see that I'm kind of checked out :/

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  2. We're exactly the same! In the last few weeks we've actually begun re-planning the future of owning our own business and also moving O/S, but then it all comes down to $$, and the IF situation leaves a big fat question mark in the air as to how much of our savings are going to be used for us to even GET pregnant (eg will we need to do another full IVF retrieval/ICSI?). If that's the case, then our future travel/business dreams just get pushed further and further away. I want my cake and I want to eat it!! Boo to this financial stuff. Booo.

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  3. I'm sorry it's been such a hard time lately. This post reminded me of how I felt back December through March of this year. I was in a complete fog. I would go about my day not really experiencing anything... just going through the motions. I was really scattered and forgetful. I found out later it was because my hormones were all out of whack. Maybe the IVF has your hormones a bit off kilter?

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  4. I know just how you feel...I can relate in many ways. While I'm looking for my focus I will also look for yours and will send it your way if I find it. ((HUGS))

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  5. Once I started my treatments over a year ago, everything else seemed to go out the window. I find myself in all sorts of situations and all I can think about is failed cycles, new cycles etc.

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  6. Its normal. I have been in that sort of daze/fog for at least the last year since all my energy was spent towards IVF cycle. Its a full time job unto itself if you ask me. I

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  7. Hugs. I haven't even gotten to IVF yet and I know the numb, half-a-person feeling you're describing.

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  8. Visiting from ICLW. I remember thinking of the irony that I had "pregnant brain" when going through IVF. I'm still certain the drugs killed a few cells. May someone hand in your focus very soon! I hope you labeled it! ;)

    ICLW#69

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  9. It is very very normal! I feel the same, this time last year I had clarity, I was smart and on to it. Now i'm constantly doing silly mistakes and blank moments.

    Unfortunately I don't know how to fix it, or find your focus again. :( Maybe start a new hobby?

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  10. First off, I am so sorry that you are feeling this way...but wanted let you know that every feeling you have is completely valid. You've been through a lot and that can affect you in BIG ways. You said it exactly. IVF puts you in such a place of hopelessness. I'm totally a control freak and struggle because I've had no control to get the outcome I want. Hang in there dear. Your focus will come back. :) :)

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  11. Ditto. I'm looking for my focus too - if anyone finds it, please let me know. I have zero ability to concentrate at work, and I can't decide which item on my list of tasks outside of work to tackle first. Lately, I start with one thing then jump to another before the first is finished. So basically I end up with a bunch of half-finished projects. And it drives me more insane than not having started them at all! *sigh*

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