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  1. I love that picture. It sums up so many moments.
    I have missed you and your posts. I have always found you have such a great approach to the whole IF thing. You inspire me.
    I know how hard those moments are when someone announces in your face. I think it is normal to be very aware of your reaction. It is so nice to know that others struggle with this....makes me feel normal.

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    1. Thanks for missing me! I've got a LOT to catch up on in the bloggosphere, so I'm sorry for not checking on your blog yet. Hope you're going ok. And I don't know how I inspire, as I feel so muddled in my head most of the time! But thanks :-)

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  2. I'm glad to hear from you! I'm so sorry about the evening with your friends. It's always hard trying to survive pregnancy announcements. I'm waiting on AF now to get my FET started ! =)

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    1. And I'll be cheering you on and offering support where i can for your FET. You deserve a smooth sail on this one :-)

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  3. An infertile can so well relate to your reaction. Thank you for putting this awkward moment in words and helping others along. Wish you luck with your running schedule and chillin' plans. Xoxo

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    1. I'll get around to posting up about my 0-10km training plan soon :-)

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  4. Hearing pregnancy annoucements is a hard spot to be in. Good news though, September is right around the corner to start your monitoring. One day soon you will be the "duff" at the table ordering soda water :) Keep your chin up.

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    1. Yep Toni, it is so close. I need to get onto your blog and catch up on how your injections are going, it's that time now right? I'm keeping everything crossed for you (if I could plait my hair i would!). x

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  5. Ugh! I completely understand. It's so hard to concentrate and all I cna focus on is "Can they see how hurt I am?" It's normally a blur! That picture is totally true too. Glad you were able to still enjoy the company afterwards - it's so hard sometimes! Good luck - hopefully you'll O on your own soon :)

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    1. Thanks heaps for the comment and the good luck. I think I'm now edging toward signs of O approaching, so my practice run is working well :-)

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  6. It never ceases to amaze me that people who know the problems you are having don't have the wherewithal (or guts) to just send out a little email/FB message/text with the news. This would be easier for all parties involved. I think your reaction and thoughts were completely normal, at least I hope so, since I have been the same way the past few months.

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    1. I never thought of that until your comment. Every one of my friends who has gotten pregnant has told me either on the phone or in person, I assumed this was their way of showing that they care about my feelings... but you're right, it would be soooo much easier to manage in private.

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  7. I'm sorry you had to hear that news in person. I agree with the above poster that it would have been easier on you to read it in private and be able to react normally.

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    1. p.s. I love your blog redesign! It's so much easier to read now!

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    2. Thanks Jules. Like I just replied above, it actually never occurred to me that there might be an easier way for me to be told the news of a friends pregnancy. It's so gut wrenching, and makes me feel so selfish for those jealous thoughts.. being told by email or a well worded text would give me time to digest the info before gathering the courage to congratulate my friend!!

      And I love my new blog design too! i did it a couple of weeks back, when i realised that certain features needed to be more accessible.

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  8. I'm so sorry you had to sit through your friends' pregnancy announcement at what was supposed to be a lovely, baby-free and fertility-free dinner. Sounds like you handled it pretty well though. I say that even though you blanked out for a bit because I'm 100% sure that's what I would have done too.

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    1. It also makes me very angry when people say they were afraid to tell me about their pregnancy or talk about their kids or any other baby-related topic.

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    2. I do understand the awkwardness it brings others, but it's worse when they break some news then everyone stares at me waiting for my reaction. Aaaaaargh

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  9. Ah, those moments are SO TOUGH. It's like your brain goes into panic mode / disaster control. I think you handled it about as well as you could have.

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  10. Oh honey. That sucks so bad. I've never forgotten those bad annoucements that totally knock you for a loop. I hope your time is soon my friend.

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  11. I prefer to be told via email or some other impersonal way so I can deal with my emotions before having to put on a show for everyone else, I like to have a little private teary and then pull myself together. There's nothing worse than an announcement thrown out into the middle of a conversation like a ticking time bomb.

    I wish people could get that it's not jealousy that makes the announcements hard, more the emptiness and soul-deep sadness catching up with you (for me anyhow). People don't get that though, all they think about is why you can't be happy for them. Sounds like you handled it really well though, I wish I could say that the pregnancy announcements get easier to deal with.

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