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  1. Hope you feel better soon.

    I completely understand what you are saying about your job. I am in a similar boat and have hung on to my job the past few years simply because it made the best sense in case I became pregnant. And yes IF does put your whole life/future in limbo - it sucks!

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  2. Make sure you talk to someone at your clinic who is willing to listen to your concerns. You're not a whiner or a wimp. These hormones can really mess with you! It's important that they listen to your concerns and take them seriously.

    I can completely sympathize with you about the job situation. We moved to a new city just before my first miscarriage. I had found a job here that I wasn't entirely happy with, but it paid well and I figured I'd only be there temporarily, so I stuck with it. Then I stayed to help save up for our house...then I stayed to help save up for IVF...and then a year and a half later I couldn't drive there without having a panic attack because the fertility drugs were aggravating my anxiety and depression. I finally ended up leaving that job and have been working from home instead, which hasn't been nearly as financially viable, but has been much more relaxing. Don't beat yourself up for not having left before. It's really hard to deal with everything that IF does to our lives. I learned that it's really important to look at what you have control over in your life and focus on that.

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  3. I so understand where you are coming from with the work situation. Try to keep your head up and moving closer to the ultimate goal. Hopefully everything else will fall into place.

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  4. That sounds absolutely crazy to me that you have to be in your position 12 months in order to receive maternity leave benefits. I guess, now that I think about it, I'm not sure what it is here in the US. At first I was thinking it didn't matter if you just started a new job or not; that you would just automatically get maternity benefits, but now I'm second-guessing myself. I've been with the same employer for almost 10 years (I'm burned out too but I have a hard time leaving some of the perks of my company behind).

    So you would only have to be with your employer for 3 months in order to receive maternity benefits and before you could get pregnant (that is, if you don't go into labor before you are supposed to)? That doesn't seem too terrible. But it could still be better...

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  5. :( I am so sorry that you are feeling stressed. And it sucks so bad to not enjoy your job. I totally get it. I hope this cycle works and goes perfectly the whole way, start to finish! FX for you!

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