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  1. You said he'd vomited a few times from being upset. That's not normal. And are we talking spit up or vomit? (spit up being just a quick upchuck vs. vomit which is all the contents of his stomach that comes up over and over again for an extended period of time) Because Eddie just might have bad acid reflux and if you're lying him flat on his back in the crib then that might be why he's crying. So many babies have acid reflux and I have a feeling that could be your problem! Have you tried elevating him for sleep? Like in a bouncy chair? Your pediatrician can also prescribe some baby Zantac or other acid reflux medication. I hope these ideas help you!

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    1. Yeah, I'd never seen him spit up that much milk before. Most days he'll have a mouthful of milk dribble out after one of his feeds, but this was a lot more. He went through two bibs, and threw up some chunky milk all over Chop's shoulder. I never thought he had reflux before, and there were always tears before. I'll get him looked at on Monday. Thanks Jules.

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  2. I am really sorry to hear about your hard times but I can only suggest that it is a result of trying to force your will on Eddie - what about changing your mindset about sleeping in the cot? and not meeting some preordained timeframe or schedule (even nurses get it wrong) - babies are organic ;) Also babies don't like to be on their own - if you think about it, it's not safe for a baby to be on their own and they will kick up a big stink because they're just following their instincts. Babies like to be around people/noise/light. What about just let him sleep in the pram in the loungeroom/laundry/outside - wherever YOU are? Also down the track maybe try a white noise CD (eg Sounds of Silence) to help settle - but if the baby feels abandoned then it's not going to relax and go to sleep...also another thing is that they recommend babies sleep in the parent's room for the first 6 months or longer if possible (to reduce chance of SIDS). I think you can either spend more time/energy trying to achieve some arbitary 'norm' or make it easier on yourselves and Eddie by just going with instinct and follow what seems to make Eddie 'happy' - happy baby = happy (and sane) mummy & daddy....just some thoughts, best wishes

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    1. He used to sleep in the pram in the lounge room during the day (before he was 4 weeks old), and then suddenly he hated it... unless the pram was in motion outside.

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  4. PS not sure if you have seen my previous comments - start at '11 Weeks Old' - also concerned that you have titled this 'FAIL' - don't be so hard on yourself, being a mummy is one of the hardest and challenging things you'll probably ever do, and we are all just trying to do our very best. I wouldn't worry about sleep 'school' but I would go and talk to someone if the tears (ie yours) just don't seem to stop and you are feeling more than a bit 'down', PND can come at any time and also for dads it's not uncommon to happen a year down the track.

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    1. Thanks for your messages and concerns. I guess I have been quite hard on myself!

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  5. Oh Ali, delurking to say that it all sounds so hard! Im so very sorry, you are doing your very best to look after Eddie and it's not fair that it's been so hard. I have friends who have been to sllep school and it sounds like exactly what you mention you need, someone along side you to show you what to do and to see how he responds (we are on the waiting list for one to get our youngest twin to sleep better during the day). The waiting lists can be long- ask the MCHN to make you a priority for cancellation spots.
    And if you need to once a day feed him to sleep or give him a dummy or something that just means that you can get some sleep during the day to cope with the process. And im so sorry you don't have relatives round to help. Do you have any friends who might be willing once a week to take Eddie out for a walk? That's how I get my sleeps! Anyway, you are doing a great job and Eddie is in the best hands possible.

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    1. Thanks for your message. I have had some of my new friends from mother's group offer to walk Eddie so I can sleep. I haven't taken anyone up on this generous offer yet though, but I'm so lucky to have people that care enough to want to help :-)

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