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  1. I can't imagine how hard it must be for you without family around to help; that's one of the reasons I don't think I want to move away for a better job. Can you find someone to switch sitting with? One week you and Chop could go out and the next you could watch their kid so they can? Hope you can work something out!

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    1. We've only just recently started this 'babysitters club' idea amongst my local mother's group. It only took us 20 months! Anyway, no one has actually done any babysitting yet, but the idea is there.

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  2. We also don't have local family, although my mom visits. I second the swapping though. We formed a baby sitting coop in our neighborhood and it has been amazing. It's been a difficult adjustment to me to spending more time with friends who have kids the same age as mine. They spend their free time in the same ways and just get where I am in life better. It will get easier, but in the meantime, I support network has saved my sanity. Good luck!!

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    1. Thanks Amy, yes my local mother's group have just started this 'babysitting swap' idea - but no one has actually done it yet. You're right, they're definitely more understanding of the life stage we are all at.

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  3. We also don't have local family, although my mom visits. I second the swapping though. We formed a baby sitting coop in our neighborhood and it has been amazing. It's been a difficult adjustment to me to spending more time with friends who have kids the same age as mine. They spend their free time in the same ways and just get where I am in life better. It will get easier, but in the meantime, I support network has saved my sanity. Good luck!!

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  4. I think your feelings are totally normal. The hardest part of parenting young children is feeling isolated and trying to find the right balance between what you need and what they need. I know its really popular to be a "mommy martyr" and always put your children first, but that has never worked for me. I may be an introvert, but I need my time alone, I need to get out of the house sometimes, I need time alone with my husband too. We love our children, to death, but that doesn't mean its going to be easy. I have never had any family living close since my husband works in the military. I think that makes these early years even harder and more isolating. Don't be ashamed of how you feel. Try to embrace that parenthood, no matter how hard won, is still hard and humbling, and its human to not like it 100% of the time.

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    1. Beautifully said Valerie! Some days are easier to feel strong and capable, other days it's a constant uphill battle. Thankfully, those bad days are fewer.... I won't let it overpower me.

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  5. Oh chick, I just want to give you guys a big hug. This is HARD, man. So hard. You're doing a great job!

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    1. It is bloody HARD! I think I underestimated how difficult parenting is, and never expected to become such a bore that only gets to go out a couple of times a year! AAAAAHHHHHHH.

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